Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Progress report (Week 6)... I seem to have missed a week


This week's successes:
  • Meet with the guidance counsellor at school about taking a semester off
  • I have finally prepared a final invoice for TYPS and I haven't been back or called to see if he needs me. 
  • I found the handles for the Kitchen at Home Depot and will be ordering them this week. I also found a paint colour I like so that the kitchen cabinets can get done. That was suppose to start this week but this has caused a delay.

Still going well:
  • I have managed to make the time to join two yoga classes and stick with it.
  • Still meditating. Not daily but the routine is developing.

To follow up on:
  • Create a plan to get home improvements done. Create a timeline and stick to it.
  • Continue to look on-line at real estate
  • Start working on Stained Glass
  • Deal with Apartment 2 aggression. He has been leaving nasty messages and it has to stop. I need to let him know that this is unacceptable. This is an empowerment issue!

Things to work on:
  • Increase meditation and yoga to 5-7 days a week. I have come to realize that this may be too much to aspire to. I thought if I could at least work on three postures a day that would be great. Once strengthening, one balance and one stretching in an area I need work.
  • Wake at 6AM every day
  • read cards on loving yourself
  • book a trip to Vipassana
  • find low back pain exercises and start doing them

Thursday, 11 October 2012

Belief systems...


I needed a place to start with this journal entry. I know I have beliefs and I know that some of the beliefs I have need to be challenged but I wasn't really sure where to start. I thought I should start with defining beliefs so that I would then be able to come up with some....

I found this information about beliefs in a business article but it applies to all beliefs:
Beliefs are where it all starts—they determine everything. Beliefs about what’s possible guide the goals you’ll set. Beliefs about human nature guide whom you hire, how you pay them, and how you promote them. Beliefs about the future have an impact on your strategy. In short, your beliefs become policies that become results. As much as we love to think we’re logical, beliefs don’t come from logic. Beliefs aren’t about what’s true; they’re about what we happen to absorb from family, friends, and culture.
So-called conventional wisdom is just beliefs. Everyone knows this is true, and no one questions it. Growth is good. Sure it is. 
Do you believe being rich means someone is smarter, or that their opinions are worth listening to? That’s just a belief. It could be wrong.
Beliefs are sticky. Once you have a belief, you’ll interpret the world to match the belief. You’ll throw away or discount evidence against the belief. Just listen to any political debate. When data supports a point of view, the proponents leap. When data doesn’t, they try to discredit the data. It’s the belief driving, not reality.

Old beliefs get in the way

Even if you identify great new beliefs, your existing beliefs will fight back. You might decide to believe that organic, self-funded growth is the healthiest. Yet your dot-com-fueled fantasies of Google’s IPO keep insisting at the back of your mind that high-growth, high-profile is the path to a great company. Your old beliefs put up a formidable roadblock to the new.
When you start fighting yourself or saying, “Yes, but . . . ,” congratulate yourself! You’ve found a limiting belief. If you preface it by saying, “Of course, it’s human nature that . . .” or “Everybody knows . . . ,” then you know you’ve found a really powerful one.
So kill it. Mull your conventional wisdom over in your mind, and start taunting it. “Nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah. You’re a limiting belief. Get lost!” If you have fun with your belief, you actually weaken its hold. Slowly start playing “what if” and make them wilder and wilder. You’ll find yourself slipping outside the box of your own thinking.
So with that in mind I still needed a place to start... here are some beliefs I found on line followed by a start of my own beliefs:

I believe that people are perfectable, that knowledge is infinite, that the world is run by secret banking cartels and is visited by aliens on a regular basis, nice ones that look like wrinkled lemurs and bad ones who mutilate cattle and want our water and our women. 

The more you study, the more you learn
Longer study periods covering greater quantities of material may, in fact, be detrimental to your ability to recall the information. Your attention span isn't unlimited. Everyone reaches a saturation point where information seems to flow into one brain cell and then proceed directly out of another. It's as if your brain is saying "give me a break!" In fact, that may be just what is happening. Recent research suggests that the human brain requires time for new information or skills to become "hard wired," and that introducing a second skill or batch of information right on the heels of the first interferes with that process. Essentially, the brain needs time to process what it has just received.
I believe that anyone who says sex is overrated just hasn't done it properly. 

I believe that anyone who claims to know what's going on will lie about the little things too. 

I believe I am too old to start anything new...


The Mirror of Relationships

So one of my assignments (last week - oops) was to learn about myself from my relationships. I had four specific questions to ask:

What about me inspires you the most?
S - the way I have a diversity of friends. I fit into many different circles easily.

What do you think is possible for me in the year to come?
S - to find my voice.

What behaviour, habit, or belief do you think I would have to give up in order to make this the best year of my life?
S - the habit of not saying no or at least saying what is on my mind. If someone upsets me I need to tell them.

What skills and abilities do I have that you would like to see me develop?
S - Yoga practice. As it is what I enjoy doing the most. It makes me happy.

Sunday, 7 October 2012

Progress Report Week 4 (October 7)


This week's successes:
  • I have looked a little further into the Costa Rica Option and it still needs work but the possibility is very exciting.
  • I went into Ottawa and spent a morning with my niece although I need to work on timing with that one. She will be three this month and this opportunity will be gone next year if she goes to school so I have to grab it while I can. She is very set in her ways and not really open to new people but I am hoping in time this will improve.
  • I met with Patti at the gym and am not cancelling my membership but sinking into a deeper hole and joining an exercise class that starts at 6AM! Not sure about this, it is too early for my body, it will interfere with my meditation routine and it is sinking more money into an already lost situation. However I'm going to give it my best shot. 
  • I also spoke to her about teaching a yoga class at the gym and I'm excited about that. The downfall is that it is on Saturdays but it is only for a couple of months, starting in January so I think this will be a good thing for me.
  • I did look on-line at some real estate but have been unable to get out and see the places as Michelle has been busy. That will be on next weeks agenda.
  • Oh I booked my flights for March to go visit Merilee!!! Very exciting.
  • I met with Judy and she will be joining me for the yogathon on Oct 13 and there are also a few other events on that day including a 60's party that we may go to. Or a wine tasting, or go to the Keystorm.
  • I found someone to replace me at the Food Bank and I am getting better at putting my foot down with regards to the work I agree to do for them.
  • I raised the rent's at the apartment. I am getting some conflict with one of the units but I will deal with that this week.


Still going well:

  • I have managed to make the time to join two yoga classes and stick with it.
  • Still meditating. Not daily but the routine is developing.

To follow up on:

  • Create a plan to get home improvements done. Create a timeline and stick to it.
  • Continue to look on-line at real estate
  • Start working on Stained Glass
  • Meet with the guidance counsellor at school about taking a semester off
  • Deal with Apartment 2 aggression. He has been leaving nasty messages and it has to stop. I need to let him know that this is unacceptable. This is an empowerment issue!

Things to work on:
  • Increase meditation and yoga to 5-7 days a week. I have come to realize that this may be too much to aspire to. I thought if I could at least work on three postures a day that would be great. Once strengthening, one balance and one stretching in an area I need work.
  • Wake at 6AM every day
  • read cards on loving yourself
  • book a trip to Vipassana
  • find low back pain exercises and start doing them
  • QUIT Typs. Even if I can't find a replacement I have to stop going out there and give them my final invoice!!
OK It's getting better. This isn't a total replication of last time. I feel like I have made some progress with the easy items. I need to focus a bit more on the challenging items.

the Mirror of Relationships

This weeks assignment is to learn from our relationships. To see ourselves through the eye's of the people around us.

I am going to pick a few friends and try and see myself through their eyes.

Also I want to spend some time to try and figure out my beliefs. We all have beliefs, I need to figure out what mine are and then I will be able to work on them.

Monday, 1 October 2012

Moving towards openness trust and love

http://www.wikihow.com/Exercise-an-Open-Mind

Don’t allow yourself any dead time. While waiting (in line at the bank, a coffee shop, a restaurant, the grocery store, or waiting for someone to pick you up, or a show on TV to start), ponder things, calculate, and memorize. You can, for example, memorize digits of pi(you can get to 50 in a matter of hours, 200 in a matter of weeks), try to remember all of your high school teachers' names, memorize prime numbers, get good at reciting the alphabet backwards, learn the Greek alphabet (forwards and backwards), remember how many movies Tom Cruise has been in, or try doubling numbers (1, 2, 4, 8, 16…) until they become challenging. You can even try doubling numbers visually, as in picturing one simple object (like a marble), then two, then four, and so on. (A good way to do this is to imagine the objects in a grid or on a circle.)

Reflect on your own belief system. Every decision you make in life is based on your belief system. To open your mind, start to list your fundamental beliefs, and for each one ask yourself why you believe it. Then ask yourself whether you could imagine being you if you didn't exactly believe it anymore, but believed something marginally different. Then marginally different from that. Pick a belief a week and work at it. Ask some really good friends what they believe and how they acquired their beliefs. Understand this: your belief system is absolutely unique to you; your friend's belief system is unique to them. An open mind is comfortable with differences and with using a variety of lenses to view an issue.

Push the limits of your body. By using your body in new ways, you can learn more about yourself and expand your mind. Walk backwards through your whole house for a completely new spatial perspective (being careful not to trip over anything or fall down the stairs). Learn to do a handstand, backflip, or a kip-up. Take martial arts classes. Try some hip-hop classes or learn a breakdance move. Can you touch your toes? Work on it. Try skiing, snowboarding, jet skiing, hang gliding, parasailing, surfing, and anything else that pushes the limits of your comfort zone!
  • Learn to spin a pencil around your thumbsolve a Rubik's Cube, or try cup-stacking. Don't know what something is? Look it up!
  • Learn to juggle. A great workout for your brain, eyes and reflexes. Are three balls too easy? Try four, or better yet, five. If you get extremely good, try 10! 20! 50! Think it's impossible? Keep an open mind. Try contact juggling for a different challenge.
  • Try a new physical sensation. Take a dip in a glacial lake or a hot spring.
Stimulate your eyes. Go to a cheap or free art gallery. Even if you think it's bad art, it can still be thought-provoking and introduce you to people with different tastes from your own. Watch movies or shows in genres that you don't normally explore. Immerse yourself in cyberpunk, horror, anime, documentaries, stand-up comedy (Eddie Murphy, George Carlin, Louis CK, etc.), or anything else you haven’t gotten around to trying (and potentially loving).
  • Watch shows that you discriminate against. Do you hate (or think you’d hate) the O.C.? Make a point of trying it once or twice. Do the same with a soap opera, science fiction, or fantasy show. Watch the Spanish channels, religious channels, the Discovery, Travel, or Disney Channel, even if only for a few days.
  • Try not watching any TV for two weeks. Fill your newfound free time with new and exciting activities.
Stimulate your ears. Listen to music you haven't had much exposure to, such as classical, new age, zouk, rap, hip-hop, drum and bass, dubstep, trance, metal, jazz, exotica, polka, international, mariachi, country, or Afro-blues. You don't have to like it at first, but if you keep an open mind, you can still find it interesting. Listen to a radio station you typically don't listen to or use an online music player such as Pandora that will expose you to new artists based on your proposed interests.

Learn about different people and lifestyles. A great gateway into this is Wikipedia, where you can read articles on a wide variety of practices, such as BDSMswinging,WiccaChristianity, the Green PartyconservatismcommunismanarchismSunnis,discordianismTutsis, and the Amish. Consider how many members they have worldwide.Volunteer with an organization that works with a community of people you are unfamiliar with.

Learn something new. Take unusual classes at a community college or community-based educational program near you: pick up a catalog and open your mind to learning things like art history, basket-weaving, first-aid training, or business ethics. Your local university likely offers easy survey courses with no prerequisites, such as meteorology, nutrition, or Japanese pop culture. You could even find unexpected topics such as Vampires and Werewolves. Learn different languages (Norwegian,Esperanto, Japanese, French, Arabic, Italian, Finnish, Saami, Chinese, Navajo, etc.), especially those with roots very different from your own. The internet is a great place to find obscure classes cheaply or for free. Look for free lectures on YouTube or KhanAcademy.org.
  • Join clubs based on things you have no knowledge of. A Scrabble club, investment club, folk dance club, etc., would not only teach you something new, but also make you new friends.
  • Build ridiculous things like radios, legos, robots, and trebuchets.

Improve your literacy and numeracy
. Learn how to write or speak backwards. (Leonardo DaVinci, the quintessential Renaissance man and a jack-of-all-trades, wrote all of his notes backwards so that they could only be read with a mirror.) Or try writing upside down, or reading backwards. None of these is as hard as it might seem; you'll soon get the hang of it.
    • Learn to read and write any language that you don't know. Here are a few ideas: Norwegian, Portuguese, Spanish, German, Italian, Arabic, Aramaic, Mandarin, Maltese, Cantonese, Russian, Finnish, Latin, Welsh and Dutch.
    • Learn to count in a different numeral base than the one you're used to (chances are you're using decimal), use binary (base 2), octal (base 8), duodecimal (base 12), hexadecimal (base 16), vigesimal (base 20 used in Mayan numerals) or another numeral system. When you start getting familiar with basic operations, try converting from one system to another. Next, mix different systems in a single operation. Throw in some of this or that and one day you might be able to multiply rot13-encoded hexadecimal by xor'ed vigesimal.
    • Learn classical cipher schemes and algorithms. Encode and decode using the Vigènere cipher, a Bible cipher, or your own code.
  1. Explore other cultures and religions. Start by trying new foods. Have you had sushi? What about Vietnamese? Mediterranean? Indian? Native-American? Cajun? Have you ever tasted a boba? A shot of wheatgrass? Have you smoked a hookah or eaten durian or the Filipino delicacy, balut? While you’re at it, attend churches, synagogues, mosques, temples, trade union meetings, and meditations.

  2. Face your fears. Are you computer-illiterate? Putz around on a computer for a while. Don't be scared. You won't break anything. Learn a programming language. Nothing is as hard as anyone makes it out to be. Build your own computer. Think it's hard? You'll never know until you actually do it. It's somewhat ridiculous how many how-to's there are onbuilding a computer.

  3. Open your mind to other political or religious points of view. You may find it hard to stomach at first, but in time you might find a grain of truth in what your nemesis has to say. Even if you don't, you'll be able to argue with one of "them" much more intelligently. Here's a hard but effective method: take a controversial issue that you have a strong opinion about. Write an essay defending your opinion with as much evidence and actual citations as possible. Then, write another essay defending the other side, again with evidence and citations, considering that side's arguments seriously and being scrupulously honest and putting in as much effort as you did the first essay.

  4. Try blocking out one of your senses. Do everyday things, like cleaning up your room or using your cell phone, with a blindfold. It puts things in perspective when you are forced to "create" new ways of doing things you've already figured how to do. You could also try using a different part of your body to do things, like write with your teeth or type with your toes.

Play strategy games
. Strategy is the poetry of the mind. Bridge, checkers, chess, shogi, and Go are all great ways to exercise your mental flexibility. Doing jigsaw and/or brainteaser puzzles will also help you subconsciously think of things in new ways, and you may surprise yourself at how talented you are at certain types of puzzles!


Travel. Becoming an outsider really exposes a mind to new things. You can even do this travel inside your country or state! How well do you know your own city? Have you tried using only a bike, or only using your own two feet and public transportation? (Ever considered what it's like if that was the only means to get around, say if you were physically unable to drive around? Being a pedestrian once in a while will make you a better driver.) Go off the beaten path!

Give some thought to the mysteries of the world. Which came first: the chicken or the egg? Or think about places like the Bermuda Triangle: why do so many people disappear? Check out books and sites on these strange topics.

Learn to play a musical instrumentPiano is very popular. Or try learning the African drum Djembe. You do not need to have the best instrument to start learning. If you have a friend that can play a certain instrument, he/she will surely help you start. If you enjoy it, you can join a class.

Talk to someone you wouldn't normally talk to. Chat up your bus driver, a protestor, someone on his or her lunch break, a homeless person, or anyone else you might not otherwise give much thought to. Everyone likes to tell the story of their life.

Spend a whole day without ever checking what time it is. Wake up when you wake up and go to bed when you are tired. You'll see that a day is a lot longer than you thought and that the sun still moves without those little numbers ticking. What separates the real from the artificial?

Learn to draw and paint from life. Life drawing will change the way you see the world. Practice is the best way to get good at it. Look for free online art lessons and books including a series by Andrew Loomis. Local groups sometimes get together offline for a Sketchcrawl or other "plein air" trips. Treat yourself to a pocket sketchbook, sketching set and a good pen or just improvise with free ballpoints or pencils and the backs of old printouts.

Browse something that you are not familiar with the internet. Read random topics on Wikipedia. Type in a random work in a search engine and see what's happens. Try sites such as Stumbleupon and Digg to find different stuff on the web. Browse eBay. Look up recipes.

Progress Report Week 3 (Sept. 30)

This week's successes:
  • I have continued the morning meditation but have to admit it is not yet a routine and am not doing it as often as I would like.
  • I continue to improve on the house. I met with the designer for our follow up appointment. She gave me all of her feedback and I have managed to follow up on a few items already. I had a party on the weekend which counts as a separate success as there was a great turn out and it was great that my living room was in great shape with the new improvements.
  • At my party I did a good job of spending a bit of time with almost everyone. I was happy about how smoothly things went and the turn out. I was disappointed that about 18 people who initially said they would come ended up cancelling, that's half. I understand that things come up and people get sick but that is an exceptionally high number. If I hadn't invited so many people that would have been a disaster.
  • I met with Michelle about purchasing a cottage and a rental property but she did not come with any ideas so I will have to look a bit on my own.
  • I have a start date for French conversation.
  • Have discussed with Doug the possibility of spending 6 months in Costa Rica
Still going well:

  • I have managed to make the time to join two yoga classes and stick with it.
To follow up on:

  • Create a plan to get home improvements done. Create a timeline and stick to it.
  • Continue to look on-line at real estate
  • Need to meet with Patti this week about the gym.
  • I have booked my follow up appointment with the doctor re my hip but the injection did NOTHING!
  • Get together with Judy to plan some time in Ottawa or Kingston
  • Start working on Stained Glass
  • Meet with the guidance counsellor at school about taking a semester off
  • Meet with Manuella about teaching yoga at the gym

Things to work on:
  • Increase meditation and yoga to 5-7 days a week
  • Wake at 6AM every day
  • cut back hours at the food bank. Find a suitable replacement.
  • read cards on loving yourself
  • book a trip to Vipassana
  • do something about gym membership
  • find low back pain exercises and start doing them
  • QUIT Typs. Even if I can't find a replacement I have to stop going out there and give them my final invoice!!
  • Raise rent's at the apartment

Once again this last list is an exact copy of what it was last week so clearly these items need work!